The human psyche is mercifully arranged: we forget too unpleasant and painful situations and emotions to live normally. However, normal does not mean happy. Behind a high fence it is difficult to see the beauty of the world and it is difficult to make acquaintance with new people. The Danish psychotherapist Ilse Sand, using real life examples, explains how various options for psychological protection do not help, but, on the contrary, prevent us from living a full life and how we can get rid of them. After reading this book, you will understand how what you were told in childhood and adolescence can influence your actions and decisions today. Perhaps you will realize the hidden reasons for your experiences and finally allow your family and friends to become truly close and dear to you people. This book, of course, will not replace your psychologist, but it will help you take a step towards people and your own happiness.