Man and woman were created to be physically attracted to each other, irrespective of their looks, stature, colour or other qualities that differentiate one person from another. What causes attraction between the opposite sex is in-built in man (man and woman) from creation. This is why couples fall in love with each other and later get married just as it was intended by God, the Creator. However, "many couples fall in love, marry, and assume that the job is completed. They believe that everything else will work out automatically." This is far from the truth. A successful relationship does not come by chance. It has to be worked for in love by the couples concerned. "The cure for all the ills and wrongs, the cares, the sorrow and the crimes of humanity, all lies in one word 'love'. It is the divine vitality that everywhere produces and restores life. To each and every one of us, it gives the power of working miracles if we will. When love fails, relationships fall into ruins and impossible frustrations deluge those involved and those around them. Such emotional pressure may result in juvenile delinquency, adult crime, alcoholism and various forms of drug addiction. You need to love your spouse. "It is love that spins the universe, and when we fail to use love properly, all of life suffers." The truth is that we all need love in huge quantities. Love is the single most important force contributing to our total well-being. With love in your relationship, you can forge ahead through life's most bitter moments and also withstand insults and cruelty. A word of caution is necessary here. Do not expect unconditional love from your spouse all the time! This is humanly impossible. You must recognize that your spouse demands a certain standard of behaviour from you before he or she will be able to love you more.

Anthony Ekanem is a researcher and writer. His research interests span across business, finance, family, relationship, health, personal development, etc. and has written many books on these areas.